The Family Clinic

 No one is born with money management skills. By the time we’re adults, we are expected to be able to manage our money effectively; however few of us are taught how. Therefore, many people experience the usual emotions that occur when they don’t know how to do something well. These may include: Learn money management basics in order to build a personal, family or household budget to avoid; Frustration Guilt Envy Anger Shame Disappointment Like driving a car or playing an instrument, the skill of managing money must be learned – and it’s never too late to start! Doing so usually pays immediate benefits. People might not earn more money if they budget well, but they will be able to use the money they do have wisely.

At Defamily Clinic we are passionate about the home and MONEY can be one of the most difficult subjects for a couple to discuss calmly. No wonder that it often tops the list as the most common cause of marital arguments.

Have you ever listened to any Master of ceremony crack their usual jokes at wedding receptions?* *It goes thus:.. "who should pay bills or take care of the children? Who is to pay school fees of children? Who should toil to provide for the home? The whole audience shouts.... "Daddy!".*

Reason 1. Lack of attention and intimacy:  How long can you go without receiving love and attention before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others can go for years. However, in general, women and men need and desire intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention.

If your In laws (Mother, Father, Brother, Sister, Uncle and Aunty) repeatedly hurts you either physically or emotionally, it can permanently damage your marriage. Here are some ways to deal with the issues and protect yourself, your family and your future. Though the lesson here is basically on mother In law. it is also applicable to all In laws.

1. You are always the victim.   You never do anything wrong, and your spouse is always doing things on purpose, obviously. He/she is completely insensitive, never takes you into consideration and probably even forgets that you exist. In return, you never ask for anything, you allow your spouse to over-indulge and underestimate. Perhaps your spouse has been unfaithful but you will forgive every single time. If you truly cannot see any of your own faults or imperfections and blame the other person for all that goes wrong, you are probably driving your spouse to divorce.

1. You Are Not Doing Enough Unfinished projects all over the place? Dirty socks left out? I can neither confirm nor deny that I have done any and all of these. Chipping in, even when you haven’t got any energy left to give, MUCH LIKE I FEEL AT THIS VERY MOMENT, can be the key to getting stuff done. Start with the fun stuff. Or the hard stuff. Or the stuff no one wants to do. Just start. The key here is activity and diligence.

COMMANDMENT #1: Thou shalt not take thy wife for granted, but will honour and respect her as thy equal. (1 Pet 3:7) Husband, are you treating your wife as an equal and granting her your highest honor? If not God says he will not answer your prayers! Selfishness is a marriage killer. For many men they think they are better than their wife simply because they are men. These men have made a serious judgment error. Husbands, tell your wife how important and valuable she is to you. Watch for the loving smile on her face when you do! The Proverbs writer said, "An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain." Prov 31:10-11 Notice how the wise husband trusts his wife's judgments and realizes how fortunate he is to have her.

Marriage is the relationship between two mature individuals. It is a union of two people coming together and forsaking all others. In Nigeria, marriage comes with its own family dynamics; it is not just a union between two but also between two families. Today, one of the greatest challenges facing many couples is the level of involvement of the families before and after the marriage.

As a Wife, Your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but your WISDOM will continue to keep him! Your ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your INTELLIGENCE convinces him! NAGGING irritates your husband, but your "Constructive Silence" weakens him! Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband comes out occasionally, But your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE!

1. Dear Married Lady, Holy wives don't just speak in tongues. They cook super meals, they raise godly kids, wear hot dresses(for their husbands), they have mind blowing sex & still make Heaven. 2. Dear Married Lady, Forget about changing your husband. Just be an upgraded version of you with more value and sweetness.

Dealing with a cheating spouse may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. There’s no right answer when it comes to deciding whether or not you want to make things work. All you can do is communicate with your spouse, listen to yourself, and decide whether or not your relationship is worth saving. If you do decide you want to make things work, then you have to take things one day at a time while remembering to take care of yourself.